22 Jan February 2020 – Case Managers
In celebration of Valentine’s Day, here are some tips on dating!
1. Ask yourself if you are ready to date. Everyone will have an opinion on the subject, but you need to ultimately decide. If you are not ready, reevaluate in a few months.
2. Don’t call the first time you meet your “first date.” It creates unnecessary pressure & can make things uncomfortable. After that you can decide if you want to go on a date.
3. If you were the person to make the invite, consider paying the bill. It’s 2020 and remember, it will be a small bill and it’s not even the first date.
4. Pick a place that is somewhat busy, but not too loud. Busyness around you can help with nervousness and awkward silences.
5. Plan for an hour at most. An hour will feel like 3 if you don’t have chemistry.
6. Avoid sharing too much, talking about past relationships and talking about politics or controversial topics. Instead talk about yourself, but not too much, and ask questions.
7. Be positive and do not get discouraged. It can take time to meet someone that you have things in common with AND have chemistry with. This is not something to rush.
8. Most importantly, be yourself and have fun!
Additional Things to Consider If You Are Online Dating:
- Get over the stigma. Online sites can be a great way to meet new people.
- Limit online chat, text or phone calls to a week or two at the most, and then plan to meet up. There is only so much you can learn without actually meeting in person.
- Avoid sharing personal information online. Creeps and hackers could be anywhere, but will be less likely to be on a paid site, especially one that has a long profile or personality assessment to complete.
Happy Valentine’s Day – eat chocolate!
Stress is something many of us can relate to and can negatively impact our work, health and relationships. According to the American Institute of Stress, 77% of Americans regularly experience physical symptoms & 73% regularly experience psychological symptoms of stress. Sleeplessness/fatigue, head and body aches, changes in appetite and depression are some symptoms that can be stress induced. Seniors have an increased risk due to declining health, personal losses or financial burdens. Managing stress may sound like an overwhelming task, but there are some things you can try. Keep a journal. Even if you have never done so before, it can be therapeutic to write things down. Keep moving; exercise produces endorphins, a chemical in the brain which helps to control pain, enhance the mood and improve sleep. (Ever wonder why kids sleep so well after a day of running around? Well, there you go 🙂 Learning to breathe and focus on relaxation can be very helpful. Wednesday, February 12 at 2:00, Mandi Miller (volunteer/Nutrition Coordinator at the Fitchburg Senior Center) will be here to teach us relaxation techniques. Trust me, you will leave here relaxed.
Valentine thoughts through the eyes of kids:
Mom and dad, you are lucky to be alive, I love you very much. Happy Valentines day – Michel
My Valentine will be my mom because she is always nice to me, and when I ask her if I can help her she always says yes. And, right now I am helping her for three days because my daddy is out skiing – Jake, 7